Social Media, We Were on a Break!

Uncategorized Jul 12, 2021
 

I am annoyed when people over explain their relationship with social media and here I am doing the same. 

I think it’s arrogant to think anyone really cares, but it turns out they do.

And I do too.

I am a solopreneur building my coaching business and Instagram has been a wonderful resource for me. 

I inspire and support people in ditching the drink. 

The growing sober/alcohol free IG community has been a great tool in my own recovery.

It has also offered a cost effective place to market my offerings. 

I love it!

I started like any regular person with one unimpressive post and 1 follower (me).

I wondered what to post, how to add value, what to share, what not to share, and how to capture anyone’s attention. 

How could I be of service and understanding to the great wide open of anyone who might cross my path?

Would anyone care what I had to say? 

To my delight each day my following grew. 

I started to meet people that I really...

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No Off Button - I'm Allergic to Alcohol

Uncategorized Jun 14, 2021

I was driving home this morning from dropping my daughter off at her summer job, and I was thinking about our upcoming all inclusive family vacation.

It hit me that I hadn't thought about alcohol on this vacation yet and it is quickly approaching.

Alcohol was not a thought in planning it, booking it, or packing for it. 

I remember taking a similar vacation a few years ago. 

I was excited, anxious, and fully prepared to accomplish my first all inclusive sober vacay.  

You can read about it here.

I have also unsuccessfully attempted sober vacations before.

More on that here.

 

It took me by surprise, this morning, to realize the very thing that used to be my one track mind, was nowhere to be found, as I was planning, preparing, or anticipating this vacation. 

This is incredible, awesome, and absolutely how I live my life!

I celebrate this!

Even as a Recovery Coach, alcohol takes up less headspace for me, than it ever did while I was drinking.

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Quitting Alcohol Required Changing My Whole Life (for the better)

joyful sobriety Jun 09, 2021

 

I’m in my 4th year of sobriety.

It was painful to get out from under the grip of alcohol dependence.

Time and space from alcohol has changed me, my values, and my priorities. 

I am a different person today, than I was on my last Day 1. 

I continue to choose to live alcohol free every day.

I have no desire to drink alcohol anymore.

I thought being sober was going to be sad and boring.

I thought I would always feel like I was missing out.

I expected to be jealous of friends that were still drinking. 

 

I am happy to report, that is not at all how I feel. 

I do not feel like I am missing out on anything.

Sobriety does not feel like deprivation to me, it feels like a gift.

Not only am I not drinking, I also do not want to drink.

 

Sobriety feels like  the world’s best kept secret.

It feels like the ultimate super power.

I no longer seek outside myself for comfort. 

I have everything I need within.

There is so much freedom that...

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Alcohol is No Longer a Temptation

alcohol free holidays Jun 01, 2021

There was a moment this weekend where I picked up a glass of whiskey,

so I could wash the table underneath so we could play cards after dinner. 

I put my nose in and smelled it.

It smelled so good!!! 

It gave me a warm, boozy, fuzzy feeling just to sniff it.

I knew I would love the burn going down my throat. 

Whiskey wasn’t my drink of choice, but I always did like it. 

Did I want a sip of whiskey? 

Maybe?

Did I want that happy burn and fuzzy buzz to come over me? 

Yes, I definitely did.

I know now what that would mean for me.

Alcohol is a big head game.

I am so glad to not be playing anymore. 

Ultimately, I don’t want what alcohol brings. 


For me, alcohol brings disappointment, dependence/addiction, hangovers, and shame.

 

It hijacks my brain into a one track mind with only one thought - drink now. 

It clouds everything that is beautiful and free about me. 

 

It makes me anxious, and depressed. 

It takes...

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The Illusion of the Two Beer Buzz

This weekend we will be on a lake. 

Woo Hoo!

Welcome Summer!

I heard an interview by the band Old Dominion about their new song titled, 

“I Was On A Boat That Day”.

It’s a super fun song and I love Old Dominion’s music. 

 

They said they were drinking when they recorded it because they wanted it to sound free and loose, like the meaning of the song.

 

I totally get that.

 

I love that too. 

 

It gives me a jolt. 

 

I want that kind of two beer buzz they talk about in the country songs.

 

This could give me a strong craving because...

 

I want that all summer long, but let me tell you…

...alcohol didn’t do this for me.

 

Maybe for one second I felt the loose, free feeling...

...but it was always followed by heart palpitations, worry, and insecurity.

 

I wasn’t really loose.

 

I was acting loose and inhibited because I had something to blame it on = alcohol.

 

I...

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My 30 Year Relationship with Alcohol - Slowly Drifting

Uncategorized May 18, 2021

I had my first drink at 12 years old.

This was my toe dipped into the ocean of alcohol back in 1988.

 

I slammed a Busch Beer in my room alone.

Then I acted “crazy" with myself.

I journaled with sloppy handwriting, so I could prove to myself (and later my best friend), 

how drunk I was.

 

How bad I was.

How out of control I was.

How troubled I was becoming.

How rebellious, dangerous, and grown up, I was. 

 

I hid the empty can in my closet for approximately 12 hours. 

The next day I told my Mom what I did.

I think I blamed her for my bad behavior.

 

From there, I would sneak a few sips while babysitting with friends, or staying at a friend’s house.

 

I always over exaggerated my behavior to try to act crazy and drunk.

The goal was to prove how drunk I was, and how outrageous I could be.

 

I was never actually drunk. 

I was always just waiting for the alcohol to take effect.

I wanted it to be as good as they say it is, and...

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Inappropropriate Mother's Day Messages

Uncategorized May 07, 2021

A rarely advertised fact is that alcohol is the third preventable cause of death in the US. 

That is not how it is marketed to women. 

Alcohol is sold as “Mommy’s Helper”, or “Mommy’s Juice”.

It is advertised as a break for Mom. 

It is sold as “Me Time” for women to escape the responsibilities of parenting, which women desperately need, in these challenging times, when they are expected to be on all the time.

Parents, and especially women, do need a break from parenting.

They need rest.

They need time away from their responsibilities.

They need resources and support.

They do not need alcohol.

Alcohol is scientifically proven to increase anxiety and depression, which is the last thing parents need during tough times. 

The problem with the message that women need wine to relax or get a break from parenting, is that it’s true that Mom’s need a break, but alcohol is an addictive substance, that creates more...

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Wednesday, May 5th

alcohol free holidays May 06, 2021

My first sober Cinco de Mayo was something to anticipate and get through.

Something to white knuckle and endure or tolerate.

 

Cince de Mayo was another milestone drinking holiday that I was about to do sober for the first time.

Similar to St. Patrick’s Day.

 

I always drank on these occasions. 

Sometimes I drank with certain people or ate certain foods. 

 

How could I possibly get through this sober?

I was twitchy.

I probably started anticipating Cinco de Mayo on Cinco de April, if you know what I mean.

 

I was so full of nerves, fear and anticipation of everything.

I lived like a live wire.

A masseuse literally told me that once, and he was right. 

 

On my first sober holidays, I tried to do all my same activities, just sans alcohol.

It wasn’t all that fun, tbh.

 

My alcohol free life has changed over the years.

This was my biggest fear in getting sober. 

That everything would change. 

I didn’t want anything...

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I'm Never Drinking Again

It’s ok to start over.

 

I just have to share that. 

 

Especially with drinking.

 

If you’ve tried to quit before and it didn’t work…

...it’s ok to start again.

 

If you changed your mind or had some success or had no success…

...it’s ok to start over.

 

Every moment is a chance to start new.

 

There was a study of athletes that were both equally talented, but one was more successful than the other. 

 

It came down to the successful one being able to rest his mind and let it go.

 

If you have struggled and tried and failed and found yourself back in the drinking loop, 

(maybe even worse off than you were before you attempted to quit)... 

...it is ok to start again.

 

Everyone  I know that successfully quit drinking...

...started by unsuccessful attempts at quitting drinking.

 

Just because you haven’t done it yet, doesn’t mean you can’t do it.

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(No) Motivation- Do It Anyway Monday

I started the week with a cycle class at my new gym.

It’s been a while since I took a spin class.

I was intimidated.

When I scheduled the class at the end of last week...

I wanted to start the week off with a bang.

I wanted to put myself first, 

get a hard thing out of the way, 

and create new energy for my week.

 

I usually start Monday's really slow.

I sit and sip my coffee on the couch, under a blanket, with Rocky at my feet.

I journal. 

I write a blog.

I write a newsletter. 

I stay in my pajamas.

I drink my green juice as a late morning breakfast,

before heading to the shower to really start my day and my week. 

 

So when this Monday rolled around,

the dreams I had for myself last week when I scheduled this class,

were met with resistance.

 

I sat on the couch under my blanket with my coffee.

Time went too fast and it was time to go to class.  

I didn’t want to.

I wanted to stay home.

I wanted to cancel. 

I...

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