She's Healing ❤️‍🩹

I am writing to you from a much better place than I was the past two weeks. I had a weekend at home, lots of rest (always the answer), a 2-hour hike in the woods, time with friends and family, a good book, homecooked food, sauna/steam room, a little blank space on my calendar, Inside Out 2, and lots of Rocky cuddle time.

My #1 girl came home from college, which to me feels like me coming home to myself. She lights up this part of me that lays dormant while she is gone. I love the connection with her, and I also love the specific part of me that she ignites. How bold of me to say that, but I can do that now that I am sober. I can like myself. Even love.

October is the best month, and it's almost over. But, the good news is... I am also one of those Christmas early kind of people, so if I didn't lose you with my fall stuff, I am about to lose you now. Lily and I started getting Christmas decorations for her first apartment and planning our Christmas crafts. We got all our supplies so we'll be ready to go during Thanksgiving break when she returns. I am so excited for it all. Ho, ho, Lowe.

After a change in plans, we ending up hosting a house full of family, from grandparents to my 7 year-old niece, on Saturday. Then we hosted our friends and our kids' friends for the Bear game on Sunday. I love a weekend with my house full of people that I love of all ages piled together on our couches. This view is my favorite as I stand from the kitchen next to an island that is jammed packed with all the best food. The smell of the smoker going outside, windows open, fall breeze, no squirrels. Surprise teenagers home from college walk through my door to join us. Me the hostess in sweats and slippers. This is my favorite kind of party that ran daily this weekend from about 2 pm to 7 pm. This is what sobriety looks like. Someday I'll tell you the drinking version of this but long story short, it was not as good and typically ended in a lot of internal drama, shame, anger, resentment, blame, disgust, embarassment, anxiety and more from the inside out so to speak.

I created a NA gin and tonic station set up for myself. I have never set up a whole drink station only for myself, but I am so glad I did. I put as much care and effort into my drinks as I have a Bloody Mary bar for the drinkers in the past, or a French soda station for the kids. It felt great to make something special just for me. I recommend it.

How can you spoil yourself sober this week? That's your homework, report back!

I even got in a game of Scrabble with a friend. She drank Gruvi. She is not sober but didn't want alcohol on this occasion. She loves Gruvi and I love this. Options. Choices. A reason, a season or a lifetime. Be the change you wish to see in the world. My entire circle drinks less now that I drink none and it is so good for everyone. Attraction, not promotion.  

This election week is a tough one for most people. The anxiety and stress are amping up even more for all sides. Take care of yourself. Recognize when you need to take action and when you need to soothe your nervous system. Set up a complimentary call if you need support in knowing the difference. 

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I want to share a peak inside. I was always so curious about coaching and other's peoples' journeys before I had my own little group to support.

This week an INSIDER member celebrated 365 days sober. 

Wow, wow, wow. 🎉

Another turned 800 days sober. Holy Schnikes.

Another, said "I am reinventing myself in my 60's!" 

(and also "Can you be my therapist too?" haha, I loved that).

Another is on Day 70 of a 100 day alcohol-free challenge and learning so much about herself with things like boundaries, permission, joy, punishment and more.

Another, after completing her 12 weeks Becoming 1x1 Coaching Package and is staying on for Life Coaching because ditching the drink uncovered so much more and she is benefiting from getting to know herself better in a safe space with a trusted coach, like Moi (insert picture of me dressed like Miss Piggy raising my gloved hand with a ring over the gloves).

Another completed her 12 week Becoming 1x1 Coaching Package and is staying as an INSIDER member and also exploring continued work with one of my referals Tina Conroy (another INSIDER) for psychic readings and angel healing.

Another took my 6 week Jumpstart Digital Course a while back and said, "Those 42 days were the best I ever felt in my whole life!" 

Then, because it was just an experiment at the time, she went back to drinking. From there she tried taking breaks from drinking and then went back to drinking. Over and over until she came back to me for more support. This is my story too btw and it could be yours. Super relatable for all of us. 

She just made 30 days alcohol-free with 1x1 Coaching. It feels different this time and she is ready for lasting change. I always say, it's not the trying it's the trying again. And again.  

Another has been lurking in the Inside for a while and finally took the plunge for a complimentary call. She decided on 1x1 Coaching Support and has her first call scheduled this week. I know it will get easier from here because she will no longer be doing it alone.

That is just a glimpse of this week. Coaching is truly remarkable. You might wonder if these success stories are for other people and not for you. I get it. I would be intimated too. You might think you are not ready yet. I have to tell you, Honey, no one is. You can get started and see where that leads you.

That's how every single of them did it. By getting started. It's ok to get started imperfectly and before you are ready. By starting you will be leaps and bounds ahead of where you would be by not starting. Holiday time is the perfect time too. It's like vacation. Start with the hard stuff and the rest feels like a cake walk. You CAN do it. My clients ARE doing it.

Here's what's coming up for INSIDERs:

October 31st 2 pm CST Heather Host Group Call (replay available)

November 1st discounted tickets go on Sale for Sober in the City Scottsdale May 2025. More info coming.

I'll be hosting a pre Sober in the City event (limited to 30 people going fast) on Thursday 5/15. It will be a beautiful picnic under the stars at sunset with a view of Camel Back mountain at our host hotel, the Andaz Luxury Resort. I hope you'll join us. Insiders Chelsie and Jen will be co-hosting with me.

November 4th 6 pm CST Honoring Grief During the Holiday Season Live  Workshop. Join the INSIDER for access.

November 5th 4 pm CST Alcohol-Free Mastermind group connect call.

You can join this group for just $9.99 a month.

Monthly calls and an app for 24/7 alcohol-free business connection.

November 7th 2 pm CST- Heather Host Group Call (replay available)

November 11th 6 pm CST Cheslie Host Group Call (replay available)

November 14th 2 pm CST Heather Host Group Call (replay available)

November 18th 6 pm CST Heather Host Insider Story Share (replay available)

November 21st 2 pm CST Jen Host Group Call (replay available)

November 25th 6 pm  CST Cheslie Host Group Call (replay available)

November 28th NO CALL

December's Recorded Masterclass will be creating festive AF holiday drinks Featuring Mocktail Mo. Ho, ho, Mo.

I'll be polling the INSIDERs for potential new meeting times in 2025.

January's LIVE Workshop Theme will be Heavy Metal Darkness-Facing our Demons ☠️

February's LIVE Workshop Theme will be Mean Girls 😈 🎀

You can get the best value with an Insider annual membership.

I love you! Thanks for being here!

XO!

-Heather

p.s. ICYMI there's still time to donate or join! We've received 3 donations and added 1 virtual team member to Team Hakuna MaTatas!