Coming Home To Myself

I am returning home after a week away. I love to travel, and there is also something special about coming home. Sobriety has been the ultimate act of coming home to myself. Making a home for myself in my inner world and being at home with myself no matter where I go. Your inner world is your real world, btw. I want you to know that. Sarah Blondin has a beautiful mediation 🔗 on this.

If you get it, that's incredibly profound, but also this morning it felt just plain good to wake up in my bed with my dog, give my husband a hug, slip on my slippers, head into my kitchen, say good morning to my (16-year-old) baby girl, and enjoy my coffee. There's no coffee like home coffee, am I right?

I enjoyed my time away because it cured any boredom I was feeling with the January Blues. My time away interrupted a spiral of panic I was heading towards. New environments shifted my energy. Remember that as a tool for anything, jump in the shower or take a walk if you need a mini shift and can't jump on a plane immediately.

I celebrated my firstborn's 20th birthday with her in a fancy hotel sleepover. I was immersed in her college life for a few days. Young people energy. OMG. I love the vibes. Lemme tell ya, the kids are alright! Our relationship would never be as good if I was drinking, and it's the thing that matters most to me. She was worried about my drinking, and I disappointed her on more than one occasion. Even this can be repaired and has come back stronger by ditching the drink. My girls love having a sober mom even when it's slightly annoying and inconvenient. I love supporting moms to ditch the drink too. I consider it the most important work I can do. Change the trajectory of generations.

My travels also got me in real life with people on a sober retreat. Honestly, that's where I shine. There is nothing like an in-real-life connection, coupled with having a little space to myself where I could hear myself think. It was like being at summer camp; we're calling it Camp Stardust. I'm planning the next one ASAP. Being in Becky Vollmer's presence is magic. She's joining our virtual book club meet-up as we chose her book You Are Not Stuck 🔗 for the first-ever DTD Insider Book Club. Join us 🔗

I am thrilled to connect with many of you at Sober in the City Scottsdale 🔗 in May. I want to add more retreats to my calendar, so stay tuned. I saw this article and thought it was interesting. Should I host a Crying Retreat? 🔗  I cry on every retreat, every time I speak in front of a crowd, in my latest workshop, sometimes even with client's on call. Fun fact: so does Liz Gilbert, so I refuse to be ashamed about this. Come cry with me. Sounds fun, right? LOL.

Honestly, I created my first real vision board while on retreat, and it's about play, making memories, laughter, and Vitamin N (nature, as my bunkmate Jenny says), so plan on plenty of that too.

This quote by Pema Chodron always comes to mind for me as a sober coach on retreat with other women. My coaching is all about shared humanity. 

"Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity."

I invite you to schedule a complimentary call 🔗

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XO!
-Heather