Do You Miss Drinking? Why I Won't Drink Again

Yes, I Still Miss Drinking Sometimes

I get nostalgic for who I was before I quit. I can romanticize the good times and conveniently forget the pain. That's what our brains do. They hand us the highlight reel and quietly lose the footage of the mornings after.

Sobriety is hard sometimes. Even now.

The Fear of Missing Out in Sobriety Is Real

I still wonder if I'm missing out. It's not always easy to let loose or to always be "on" my sober game. Some nights I'd love to just turn my brain off the way I used to.

And I'm automatically excluded from a lot of people and events I used to love, just because I don't drink anymore. The happy hours. The wine nights. The invitations that quietly stopped coming. That part still stings.

If you're early in sobriety and feeling all of this, please hear me: it doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. It means you're human. Missing alcohol is common, and it's not a sign you should go back.

Is Sobriety Worth It? I Ran the Numbers

I spent 20 years in sales and HR. I can't help it. I think in return on investment. And when I compare what drinking gave me to what it cost me, I still can't find a good enough reason to go back.

Because I remember the cost.

By the end, it wasn't fun nights out. It was mostly drinking alone. Spending all day just trying to get to the point where I could open a bottle and finally exhale. Going to bed hating myself. Waking up and mentally punching myself in the face before my feet hit the floor. Never giving myself a real chance at a good day.

Nothing I miss comes close to paying for that.

The nostalgia is real. So is the math.

Will I Ever Drink Again? When I Find the ROI, I Will

People ask me this all the time. My answer is always the same: if I can find a way for it to enhance my life, I will.

I'll drink alcohol again when I can find a way that it will truly improve my life. That's the one thing. Not a craving. Not a bad day. Not a party I wasn't invited to. Only a real, honest reason that drinking would make my life better.

So far I haven't found one reason. Not one.

I don't hold sobriety with a white-knuckle grip. I hold it as a choice I keep making because it keeps paying off.

What Long-Term Sobriety Gave Me

Early sobriety is the weeds. It's loud and raw and you're not sure you'll ever feel normal again. I remember. All I wanted back then was for my head to hit the pillow without hating myself.

Getting out of the weeds and into long-term sobriety has brought me more peace, joy, alignment, adventure, love, and fun.

Yes. Even fun.

The fun I have now doesn't come with a price tag the next morning. It shows up as half marathons and road trips to game days with my girls. Real conversations I actually remember. Mornings that start with me on my own side.

Early sobriety asks you to give something up. Long-term sobriety gives you your life back.

So For Me, This Is Where I Stay

I can miss drinking and still choose sobriety. Both things are true. Missing something isn't the same as wanting it back.

So for me, this is where I stay.

How about you? What would it take for alcohol to truly enhance your life, and is that reason really out there?

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