Something sacred happened this week...

Hi Friend,

Something beautiful happened during our warm-up call this week.
A kind of stillness. A moment of honesty that made the whole room (myself included) lean in and breathe deeper.

Women reflected on not just what they want to change in the new year, but how they want to feel.
Grounded. Present. Lighter. More themselves. More alive.

And as I listened, one word kept humming through my chest:

Anchors.

Because the truth is…

December is the mirror.

And anchors are how we steady ourselves as we walk toward who we are becoming.

What Anchors Actually Are

Anchors are the small, repeatable rituals that tell your nervous system:
“You’re safe. You can slow down. You can arrive.”

They’re not chores.
They’re not rigid routines.
They’re not “habit hacks.”

They are:
✨ moments of presence
✨ points of return
✨ the opposite of spirals
✨ gentle pattern interruptions
✨ cues that shift your identity

And most women have never learned how to use them because we were taught to push, rush, hustle, numb, survive, and “just get through it.”

Anchors are the antidote.

Why Anchors Matter (Nervous System Wisdom)

Most women think they need willpower to change.
They don’t.
They need regulation.

Your nervous system simply cannot live in “go mode” forever.
That revving, rushing, buzzing pace?
It’s what leads to burnout, resentful giving, emotional spirals, mindless cravings, and the “I’ll start over in January” loop.

Anchors interrupt the panic.
They soften the edges.
They give you micro-moments of safety, and safety is what allows change to stick.

This is why when women start using anchors, they begin to say things like:

“I feel calmer.”
“I don’t explode at my kids.”
“I sleep better.”
“I’m making decisions I’m proud of.”
“I feel like myself again.”

Anchors are bridges from who you’ve been to who you’re becoming.

If slowing down feels impossible… Let’s talk about that.

I know some of you think:

“Slowing down sounds nice, but I don’t have that kind of life.”

And I hear you.
I used to live that way too, convinced that rest and ritual were things other women got to have.

So let me offer this gently:

Slow doesn’t mean spacious.
Slow doesn’t mean having hours.
Slow doesn’t mean quitting everything.

"Slow" means:
✨ stepping outside for one breath
✨ delegating one task
✨ listening to your inner knowing
✨ auditing expectations
✨ letting “good enough” be enough
✨ shutting the bedroom door for 3 minutes
✨ giving yourself 10 minutes of alone time each morning
✨ A two-word prayer, "thank you," will do. 

It doesn’t take privilege.
It takes permission.

You deserve to give yourself that permission.

You matter.
Your health matters.
Your energy matters.
And a reminder: the people who rely on you need you well.

Inside the Community This Week…

Something awakens when women gather with shared intention.

Inside the women are already creating anchors:

✨ A 3-minute morning breath
✨ A nightly “put the day to bed” ritual
✨ A “pause before reacting” practice
✨ A calming cup of tea after dinner
✨ A daily check-in question: “What do I need right now?”

And the ripple effect is stunning.

This is why I built this program the way I did—small, coach-led, intimate, and intentional. 

We don’t miss each other. We don’t drown in noise.
We actually see one another.

This challenge comes from my lived experience and from your requests as members for deeper support, structure, and accountability.

And now… we prepare for January.

We don’t wait for January to prepare us.
We prepare ourselves.

This is the difference between a temporary change and a transformation.

Anchors
Attention
Awareness
Nervous system safety
Identity shifts
Small repeated actions

THIS is the groundwork of the First 90 Days.

January 1 Kickoff

If you're already Inside keep practicing your anchors and filling out your workbook, creating your personal tracker.  

If you haven’t joined yet…
This is your moment.

Don’t enter January with chaos.
Enter January with clarity.

Don’t enter January from a place of exhaustion.
Enter from intention.

The woman you’re becoming is calling you into something deeper.

➡️ Join or deepen your commitment to the First 90 Days Challenge HERE

Your life changes when you pay attention.
Let’s begin—together.

XO,
Heather

p.s. Why not use the power of the winter solstice and sign up now, having your darkest night behind you and heading towards the light? ✨